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Why a post about behavior modification?

Please, let me explain.

Over the years I have acquired and developed very specific skills in the areas of computers, creativity, and personal development. Because of this, my friends and family immediately come to me for assistance before looking for answers themselves, even if they know I don’t have the answer. A friend of mine shared something with me. She said the reason was because even if I don’t know the answer, I know where or how to find it. She added that I’m much faster at finding the answer than she. This made me laugh but it also made me realize I was doing something other people weren’t doing. I had no idea that people would much rather have someone else find their answers than find them on their own.  So I started paying more attention when I was being asked to help with a problem or to find out information. She was right. They weren’t coming to me because they thought I had all the answers. They were coming to me because of my ability to produce a valid answer, even if I had no idea when they first contacted me. Then it became important for me to teach them how to quickly find answers to their own questions.

How silly of me. There was more to it than that. The issue here wasn’t about the act of looking for your own answers. The issue was learning how to learn. It is my drive for answers and knowledge and my ability to know how to get answers and the knowledge that gives me the ability to learn. Application comes after learning. Well that is my interpretation anyway.  So, how could I get them to seek out answers on thier own?

Why do they seek our others to do a task they are perfectly capable of doing themselves?

People learn over time to be helpless. In addition, their self-esteem also suffers over time so they believe they are not capable of finding information on their own.  Think back to when you were in grade school. Weren’t you taught to go to the library and look things up? I remember that very well. I remember when searching for resources was taught year after year to stress its importance. However, over time this may seem less and less important in our daily lives. There are many other reasons why people would rather have someone else do tasks they can do themselves, but it lead me to helping my friends and family learn to help themselves. As I began doing consulting work I became even more aware of this issue of asking before seeking.

So what is this blog all about? This blog is pretty simple. I would like to present to readers the knowledge I have acquired in the areas of Publishing, Graphics Design, Business Image, Creative Writing, Filmmaking and Personal development. However, in order for some readers to make use of this blog, it may also be necessary to help them develop self-behavior modification skills.

So…

Three West Creative Development Blog = Knowledge+Self-Awareness+Self-Behavior Modification = Success

In some instances, applying knowledge from this site to your goals or projects may require life and/or behavior changes in order for you to be successful. You can do it!  Its not just about getting information, its about using it as well.